Anyone who is in the D/s lifestyle and doesn’t know of Symon – please, go read his blog and absorb his experienced words of wisdom. I respect him immensely and envy his submissive just a teeny tiny bit. Lie – a lot.
This is one of those posts that should be required reading for an imaginary BDSM101 class. A Lot of people think that sexually enjoying being dominated automatically makes them submissive. While that may make you a bottom, or a general masochist, or possibly at the other extreme a slave, it is only one aspect of submission.
One cannot truly call oneself a submissive until there is a genuine feeling of happiness in their heart from submitting their will to a trusted someone. I know the line here is quite blurred but I associate a lot of emotions and feelings with being submissive that I don’t think will be embraced by someone who just likes submissive play. I think this post by Symon beautifully expresses some aspects of submission that make you think about your own values, whichever end of the BDSM spectrum you lean towards.